I was thinking the other day how very different men and women are. Little girls have a natural gravitation towards babies, dolls, sparkles, Little Tyke kitchens and playhouses, and miniature baking sets. While little boys from the day they’re born want cars, tools, blocks, Legos, electronics, and more. Then it’s sad, we grow up, and now ladies are told we have to like all the same things that boys do, and drop our love of dolls, baking, and sparkles… put on our work clothes, pick up our brief cases, and walk right into a business setting that lacks all the things that we love.
It’s no wonder that women can’t help but talk about their children, hobbies, and life outside of work when they step foot into the work place. We can’t help it, since work is typically not our first priority. Women have a motherly instinct and we’re nurturers, it’s instilled in us. We can’t be like a man who knows how to build a strong distinction between work and personal life. When women work, their personal life and work all blend together… while a man becomes a machine, and wants to get right to the point.
I’m not saying women are not good workers, or bad at multitasking at work. We’re excellent. We take our nurturing skills into the office, and well, it’s helpful. We think of a lot of details that some men wouldn’t think of… hence the fact that a lot of women are secretaries. We’re just better at it. We know how to instinctively make a man’s life better. We also make great nurses and teachers, because our motherly instinct kicks in, and it makes us some of the best employees.
So, I’m not saying women are terrible in the workplace, and if I did, I was obviously joking, because the truth is we’re good. The difference is, work stresses a woman out more than a man, especially when we have children. If a woman is working and has babies, then she has twice the amount of work than the man does. She is trying to play mom, house, wife, work, boss, etc… all at the same time. If all those things don’t stress you out, then maybe you’re super woman. But, the truth is, the thought of all that may as well give me a heart attack.
Anyways, if you are a working mom, I commend you. It’s tough work, because let’s be honset… a man isn’t very useful when it comes to nurturing, cooking, and cleaning. So, you’re probably doing a lot of those things. I just know it’s hard because our God given duties are to be a wife and a mother, and if we’re working all the time, we tend to slack in those two areas… and those just so happen to be our two most important duties in life. We will never look back on our life and say “I should have worked harder,” we will say “I should have loved more.”
Children are so very important. They need the attention of a parent, and the love and time it takes to raise them. Today, you can see the dynamic of the family falling apart. Women are neglecting their husband or expecting them to play mother too, and children end up being raised in split homes, with both parents working all the time, which causes neglect and heartache. I mean, children need watching. They’re young, and if you’re not helping to mold them, then their surroundings will… and let’s be honest, present day surroundings arent exactly what you want molding your children.
Sometimes, I think that women do better at home with their children, or with a mother who doesn’t have to work full time with long hours. I know some women just need to work, and again, I commend them, but I hope they know how to prioritize their life; your family should always come first.
Ps. If you’re a mother or know a mother that doesn’t have any other option… and has to work tons of hours and play mom, dad, etc… I pray that God gives you or her the strength and energy! Mothers deserve the best!