1. Apartment living robs you. Renting a small house with the girls is the way to go.
2. Wine > vodka.
3. Leggings = life made.
4. Roommates are great to try recipes out on.
5. Disney movies will never get old.
6. Cheaters are not worth it.
7. Go the speed limit. Tickets are the worst.
8. Sometimes all you need is ice-cream or pizza.
9. Your friends were there for you before the boyfriend.
10. Tell your family you love them as much as possible.
11. Drinking & driving is not worth it.
12. Mexican hole-in-the-wall restaurants have the best margaritas.
13. You’ll fail a couple of times. It’s okay, I promise.
14. If you need help with money, ask, don’t continue to struggle.
15. Not everyone is going to like you.
16. Men’s razors work better.
17. Vote, but know exactly what you’re voting for.
18. When you need guidance, read your Bible.
19. If you think a dress is too short, it is.
20. Bubble baths aren’t just for toddlers.
21. Nanny or babysit regularly, it’s great practice.
22. You can never have too many shoes.
23. Stand up for your beliefs. They’re not stupid.
24. Sometimes you just need to cry.
25. Watch the news, read a blog, learn about the world.
26. Traveling is the best money you can spend.
27. Drink at least 2 glasses of water before going to bed if you were drinking.
28. Love is patient. Love is kind.
29. Being a bridesmaid is expensive. Save.
30. Exercise. Your health is everything.
31. If he cares, he’ll call.
32. Not everyone needs to know what you’re doing on Facebook.
33. Nude heels go with everything.
34. Wait to get a dog, they’re a lot of work.
35. Wait to have kids.
36. Use sunscreen. Sunspots and wrinkly skin isn’t worth a temporary tan.
37. Moisturize!
38. Sleepy time tea before bed… it’s surprisingly nice and relaxing.
39. Get in the best shape of your life — you’re in your prime!
40. Life is just better with coffee.
41. Set goals and actually try to reach them.
42. Smile more.
43. Judge less.
44. Compliment the beauty in others.
45. Nagging pushes you further away from those you actually care about.
46. Nice guys > Jerks
47. Never lose touch with your siblings and cousins.
48. Remember to call mom, but don’t forget to call dad.
49. Do something for others. Tithe, volunteer, give a gift to someone in need…
50. Being single isn’t the worst thing in the world.
51. Guys HATE high-waisted jean shorts.
52. My mom was right… about everything.
53. Whattaburger’s honey butter chicken biscuits are the best food after a night of drinking.
54. Treat others how you’d like to be treated.
55. Set your alarm, and actually get up.
56. The real world can be really mean.
57. Crafting soothes the soul.
58. Dance… who cares if you “can’t.”
59. God’s timing is perfect.
60. Put your phone down and live a little.
61. Forgive.
62. Spoil yourself with new lingerie.
63. Duck face is not cute.
64. Remember to take pictures.
65. College was made for finding bridesmaids.
66. Exes typically always want you back…eventually.
67. Exes are NOT worth taking back.
68. You’re only in your 20’s for 10 years.
69. Men love classy ladies.
70. Glorify God… live to make Him happy.
Xoxo,
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“College was made for finding bridesmaids”?
That’s a joke, right?
@Apple obviously that’s not all college was made for. It’s just that sometimes, a lot of girls are focused on finding their groom when they should really want to find the girls who will be with them forever – “bridesmaids.”
I love the sentiment! It’s a great time to find true friends, because you’re coming into who you really are.
Well said
Your name is Apple?
That’s a joke, right?
Sarah, that was pretty low…No need for low blows
16. Even though mens razors work better… they actually aren’t good for womens skin… just a little fyi! Agree with the rest!
But I do love men’s shaving cream!
Conditioner as shaving cream is better and cheaper:)
Beautiful list! Thanks girl! Blessings to you.
I agree. Seems like a joke to me.
Seriously? Can this list be any more sexist?
I don’t believe it’s sexist. I believe she’s comfortable in expressing her gender and has embraced its roles and traditions. She’s advocating finding friends instead of boyfriends and waiting to have kids. I think it’s a great list!
P.S.: Ruby, I love the little pearl about a dress being too short. So true! If you’re self-conscious about it when you put it on, you’ll be self-conscious in it all day. If you couldn’t decide if it was too short or not, wore it anyhow, and you won’t be very happy or comfortable when you’re tugging nervously at it all day.
THANK GOD someone else thinks this is the most ridiculous thing ever written. The countless women who fought for our suffrage less than 100 years ago battled for our sex in vain if this is what I’m supposed to be taking from the last six years of my twenties. Congrats on your MRS. Degree. Why don’t you settle down and raise those kids and leave the imparting of wisdom to someone without a blog entitled “diamond diploma”.
We all have opinions but I am wanting to know; Lauren, how is this list sexist. I am a women and think that everyone saying this is sexist needs help. We women we can’t stand up to pee. We don’t have huge muscles. Why does EVERY SINGLE LITTLE THING HAVE TO EQUAL? We got voting right and right to drive and the right to own property. We can hold jobs and even kill an unborn baby (under the guise of choice (I have a thought on that I won’t disclose here.)) I think we have enough rights. A little power is never enough for the feminist movement. She is smart to take what she has learned instead of living haphazardly. Good on you blogger for being wise. You keep being you.
We have “enough” rights? Are you fucking kidding me? It’s women like you that are responsible for the term “weaker sex”
Weaker, ok so you got me. I love the fact that I am a mid 20 something with no degree (sarcasm). Who served four years active duty navy, leaving my son in daycare for 18 hours a day. I worked super hard along side my husband. Never got my nails done the most I got was my hair cut and dyed. I could take a beating and keeping going. I raised my son my self for a year and a half waiting to discharge so I could see my husband again. Didn’t ever cheat (even though it was a long distance marriage) and didn’t ask for a divorce. So God must have made me “the weaker sex” in your opinion pretty strong. I’m happy thankful for my life. A husband who loves me, two strong baby boys, a life experience. I’m happy with my rights I do have (voting, driving, going to school, owning a business and property.) Girls in middle eastern countries want to vote and go to school and leave the house without someone hovering over them (all things we take for granted). Life isn’t equal neither is it fair. Be thankful for what we have because many don’t have it.
Let’s do our best to be respectful of each other. I’m sure we can express ourselves without insulting each other.
@Jaclyn, That was uncalled for and beyond rude of you to say. You do not have to agree with Amanda or with this list, but you don’t have to attack someone because they see things differently than you do.
@Amanda, thank you for your service and sacrifice made to protect our country. It takes great strength to do so much for people who might not always show you the kindness you deserve. I thank you so much.
Straight up, yes. Everything has to be equal and should be equal. The fact that you question it makes me concerned. IF people were seen as equals, equality would trickle down naturally. The fact that you’re question means there’s still an imbalance. Thank you for serving our country, but please open your eyes.
If you really thing women in the Middle East (outside of Saudi Arabia) have no rights then you are a f*cking retard. People like you are the reason why the west has such an ignorant view of the Middle East. Sure, SA isn’t a good country for women but if you knew anything at all you’d know that there are multiple countries in the Middle East, some of which have some of the most modern cities in the world (think Dubai). I’ve lived in the Middle East and it was wonderful and I had all my rights. So stop spreading your stupid and go back to bowing before your man.
You’re admitting she is right at least in regards to SA. It’s funny you mention Dubai to counter her, considering women who report rape face charges there. Plus countries like Iran and Pakistan certainly fall behind western standards. Sure, countries like Israel and Lebanon have better women’s rights and human rights in general, but even the best middle eastern countries are on par with the US at best. Surely you aren’t saying the Middle East as a whole is a bright shining example of women’s rights.
Dubai is actually very strict…maybe you need to do some research
If you ever use the term “F*cking Retard” again…you should be ashamed to have said that, you have no idea how much offense people take to that. Just simply being rediculous.
I would like to thank some people for proving I am correct. But as for the word retard it’s ok I’m used to hearing it after I was bullied in school for having to be in the resource room….. Traveler I bow before no one but God. My husband is always asking my thoughts on things and I respectfully give my thoughts. As far as right I have talked to woman WHO RESIDE in the country under extremists rule and they want to vote and go to school but they risk death. At least here I can drive a car, vote, and own property which in old America no one could do as a woman. I least I paid attention in history class instead of the jock two seats over. Plus I have read more books than you know.
Dear Lauren, the fact of the matter is that at some point in most peoples lives they will settle down and raise kids. However the author of this suggests waiting to have children, traveling and finding lasting friendships. None of that is sexist. So I personally think you should read it again with different eyes.
To clarify: During the suffrage movement the women did not fight for the right to not have kids. That movement was based off the idea of suffrage or the right to vote. Later there was the women’s rights movement which dealt with equality in the workplace among many things. Never once did any of those women fight to leave the homeplace. They fought for proper treatment. The modern “feminists” are today going so far that instead of celebrating in their own gender they want to be seen as men. As a woman of the generation this post talked about I would like to say that I agreed with most if not all of it.
Best comment, L. Elizabeth! Well said.
Thank you! Im reading these comments and yours is the only one that makes any sense. This article talked nothing about inequality between men and women. It was simply saying enjoy your life and live it up while you’re young. There will be a day when you settle down and have a family and may not be able to do those free spirited things. All this talk abound sexist and feminism is so off topic of this article. Ladies please think before you type. No one is taking away your rights just by having an opinion…smh
Oh so true! There’s absolutely NOTHING wrong with a woman who WANTS to be a mom. Just as there’s nothing wrong with a woman who WANTS to be a CEO. Why do we have to degrade each other (women) to make our “cause” more valid? I WANT to be a mom, and a WIFE and I LOVE doing it. I also LOVE being the manager a my store! We degrade men so that they fell shamed for being masculine and shame women for being feminine! THAT’S messed up!
Hi Lauren,
15. Not everyone is going to like you.
23. Stand up for your beliefs. They’re not stupid.
43. Judge less.
54. Treat others how you’d like to be treated.
56. The real world can be really mean.
I feel these thoughts aren’t so ridiculous as you have claimed, particularly in light of your comments.
I feel this deserves a big ol’ AMEN!
Lauren, please remember to regularly apply ointment to the burned area.
Don’t forget to bow down to your Judeo-Christian sky god while you’re at it HE may get angry!
She specifically spoke to being ok with being happily single in your twenties and not taking back ex’s just cause. Doesn’t sound like she’s majoring in marriage much to me.
Serious ly this list fits everything that we women do. Did you not watch bambi ? If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say it at all
Dear Lauren…. I am a women with an education. I left a job making $100,000 a month. To “settle down and raise those kids” that will one day tell you missy what you can and cannot do… You should be nicer to me and treat me with the respect I have earned… I have done a LOT of jobs in the 38 years I have been in the work force and not one – not even the one where I sat with the children of the dead parents who’s hand I just had the honor of holding while they were dying – is more demanding, challenging, longer hours, happy, sad, horribly scary when the best infectious disease specialist west of the Mississippi says “maybe six hours – your (first born baby) son is just too sick” rip your heart right out of your body scary, rewarding beyond words when they make the qualifier for their first US Open, crying for hours every time you looks at the photos or commercial your 17 year old daughter worked on doing all the make up for 9 people and it was magnificient beyond any 3 billion dollar monthly funding goal I blew out of the water…. Raising children makes any job on this earth look like a pansy ass mow the neighbor’s yard job… As much as I think you are beyond ignorant I hope one day you have the honor of motherhood bestowed upon you too so you can reflect back and remember that brilliant women who chose rehabilitating her son who so thankfully lived over earning that next million and never ever looked back. You are a passionate fighting kick someone’s ass for messing with your family kind of woman so I do hope your choose to pass down some of that amazing God given love to your own children so that they can follow in your footsteps in doing what is right no matter how many people call you names or disagree with your opinion!! My prayer for you is tolerance and patience of others and their opinions because one day and it will come I promise with children they will think your ideas are antiquated and so last century… That’s when the patience of keeping them tide securely in their chairs making them listen intently to your so very righteous and passionate opinion!! Either that or choose a ski resort 4 hours away and start the minute you hit the freeway! It is amazing what teens will listen too when skiing is the reward!! Good Luck…
tGreat sob story there. You do realize that your ‘tough life’ mantra does nothing to lend cresence to your argument and in fact only emphasizes your ignorance, right?
Ms. Lauren,
I’d be willing to bet your poop smells like sandalwood. Similarly, I’m also very important. I have many leather-bound books and my apartment smells of rich mahogany. It doesn’t matter who’s fault the break-up was, I was stubborn, you were like a mentally ill whore from the 1800’s. No offense, but you are a stupid asshole. Stay classy.
Now that’s a real woman quoting Anchorman! ALL women deserve to be EQUAL to ALL men… ‘And you are going to deprive them of that because I have breasts? Exquisite breasts? Now, I am gonna go on, and if you want to try and stop me, bring it on. Because I am good at three things: Fighting, screwing, and reading the news. I’ve already done one of those today, so what’s the other one gonna be? Huh?’
Amen. I’m glad I’m not the only one who felt really really frustrated reading this.
THANK YOU. It’s sad that Mekka-Christians are so ignorant that they don’t get why this list is ridiculous. (I do agree with a few of the more innocuous points, though…)
Why do people always try to make something seem negative and sexist? There is nothing sexist about this!
Because they are still in their 20’s & haven’t fully learned what “grace” means, yet. 😉
She said travel, don’t rush into marriage or kids, and don’t put up with a guy who isn’t worth your time. That’s everything I believe in as a feminist. So, no I don’t think it was sexist, just good fun.
What about a girlfriend, as a partner. What about the women who never want to have kids. What about the girls who actually do believe in equality?
I don’t think anyone should expect all 70 things to apply to them. That’s just ridiculous
As a man, this list is most definitely about her. Look at the title. A lot of things didn’t apply to me, but I still agreed with it. I never saw where she put down women who want a woman, or women who don’t want kids. Remember these are things SHE learnED, not something everyone should learn.
This is not sexist. Women were created to be women. What was said that is sexist?!? Be kind? Be loving? Be spiritual? Be smart? If women focused on being women and not trying to be equal to/better than men…we might have more two parent homes.
Awesome Donna! I totally agree. Yet the same women will frown upon a man wearing heels.
I typically don’t like getting into these types of discussions on the Internet. As a feminist (that’s right, I said it) I don’t believe that this list was necessarily “sexist” but problematic. Some of its points are based off of a lot of stereotypical gender roles (cue the, but men were made with bigger muscles etc. argument, but I’m talking gender roles and not sex, two different things, FYI) so I could totally see how some people may not be a huge fan. I for one enjoyed most of the list, but cringed at a few points that perpetuated these gender roles. The idea that women were created to be women is based in these societal expectations. What does it mean to be a woman exactly? Because it changes cross-generationally and culturally. My definition of a “woman” would differ greatly from yours, but it doesn’t make either of us more right or wrong. I wish that more women today weren’t so knee-jerk to call something sexist, nor were some of them so knee-jerk to call on all of the stereotypes they’ve been socialized to believe in. Bottom line in this argument: we all need to open our eyes just a little bit, realize the inequalities that do unfortunately still exist (and maybe try to change them), but also celebrate the great strides that our foremothers have made.
And for the record, a man in heels doesn’t make me frown. It makes me jealous that I can’t walk in them as well as he does
Thank you for posting the smartest, most well-rounded comment on this thread.
I believe that what most people are missing in this little debate about what equality means to them is that this equality truly means the right to choose how they want to live their life, for both sexes. If a woman wants to take advantage of the rights that other women have fought for us to have or whether she wants to choose to go a different route and get her MRS degree, that is her prerogative; if a man wants to stay home and raise his children, that is his prerogative. It’s not about whether the way someone’s lifestyle fits in with your updated gender norms or if I’m their life they’re happy to be a mother and wife, it is their choice and feminism allowed them that choice.
I believe she wrote this coming from a place of personal experience and friendship. We turned it into a sexist/non-sexist, gender roles debate. She neither told us to become mothers and wives not to fight the man because that is not what this article was meant for. I just feel like in this day and age people are looking down on women who want to be home makers and mothers as their primary “job”, but the choice is what we fought for.
I’m sure countless guys will do a lot with knowing that nude heels go with everything.
The blog post is called “70 Things I Learned in MY 20’s” pretty sure the author is sharing things she HERself has learned- it’s obviously not geared towards guys. And to everyone else- she’s not telling you how to live your life, just sharing how she lives her, and you can’t condemn her for that, just because it doesn’t match you feminist fancies.
Thank you for pointing that out I thinkothe ppeople with negative comments did not read the title smh
There’s a lot on here that’s sexist. This list is tailored for a very limited specific type of female.
Yeah the kind of female she is you dumbass lesbian
I love the stuff you said about Jesus, but everything else is such a poor representation of an intelligent, well-rounded, tolerable 20-something. I’m embarrassed for you, to be honest.
Hey Gina… WWJD? I’m embarrassed that you call yourself a Christian.
This blog was obviously written to be witty & fun. It’s a rare sight nowadays to see a Christian voice, you shouldn’t be shaming her writing. I personally loved it! Keep up the great work!
I personally thought just the opposite. Leave out the religion and the rest IS for “an intelligent, well-rounded, tolerable 20-something.” I am not embarrassed for you; to be honest, I am disappointed.
Coming from an independent 21 year old that is a senior at a university, it is not sexist, or embarrassing, but true, especially in this generation.
I’m embarrassed for your unapologetic judgement.
I’m embarrassed by your misspelling of the word “judgment.”
Do you lose your job as a grammar Nazi for making corrections that aren’t necessarily correct? Unless you’re 100% sure that person is from the USA, then you’re not necessarily right, and even if they are, keeping the ‘e’ isn’t ‘wrong’.
Both are correct.
In other English speaking countries such as canada it is spelled judgement.
http://www.dailywritingtips.com/judgement-or-judgment/
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/judgement
Both spellings are correct.
@Gina,
I’m in my 50’s, have a daughter who is 20 (the one who is responsible for me seeing this post) and you are the one who is misguided. Including the “stuff you said about Jesus” this article is dead-on! Been there, done that, can attest that everything here is REALLY good advice! Sorry that you’re so closed-minded. You have a lot to learn.
I agree with Beverly.
I agree w Beverly. I shared it w my open-minded 21 yr old, who is an independent Jr. In college.
Wow. Way to killthe vibe gina just because you might be a “well rounded Christian” doesn’t mean evryone else like me for example wil be by the tine we are out of our twenties. Honestly our twenties are our bestyears yo let loose a bit discover who we. Are and be single have fun learnn to love God and ourselves. Have a open mind why dont your.
52! <3
I love it!
This is the stupidest stuff I’ve ever read.
51!! But seriously, I love this list. I’m now into my 30s, and wish someone had told me all of this when I was in my 20s. Very good advice.
Sexist? How?!? A woman wrote about the lessons SHE learned! They might not be your lessons but she has every right to share them! It’s called Freedom of Speech! And quite frankly that term is used way to often and inaccurately! Get over yourself. If you were a feminist you would embrace and support other women even when their opinion differs not call them sexist!
This was exactly what I was thinking, it’s her list, not guidelines on how to live, still full of wisdom and made me smile which is probably what she set out to do do in the first place. Right On!
Exactly!
Gina, Jesus lover… how is crafting (did a ton), traveling, avoiding jerky guys, and needing a hangover recipe a poor representation of a twenty year old? you stayed home for college, didn’t you?
I find this a very all- inclusive list!
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Honestly I hate wine even in mixed drinks. Vodka is so much better in my opinion. Anyway I love this list! There are a few that I do but I might have to try men’s razors.
If you’re drinking wine in your mixed drinks, you have a lot to learn about drinking.
Actually, there are quite a few cocktails made with wine, especially sparkling wines – the Mimosa, Bellini, French 75, Sangria…
http://www.drinksmixer.com/cat/2285/
Looks like you owe her an apology.
And yes, Vodka > Wine, but wine can be good sometimes too.
Love this.. so so great!
“The real world can be really mean”? you just learned that in your 20s? damn girl. I envy your naivety.
Why you gotta be so mean?
I totally laughed out loud to this, because it’s so true! The “real world” for most of us starts in grade school and it actually gets easier the older we get because then we can take charge rather than be a passenger in life.
You inspired me to write a blog about this! I love it haha.
It seems like most of these things are what people learn their freshman year of college.
All of these ridiculous people writing negative comments obviously never had a well-rounded life in their 20s. This list was fantastic! Such an accurate representation of women in their 20s. Obviously there will always be people saying that you’re being “sexist”. Whatever! This post was funny, true, and shows that you are comfortable being you! That is more important than trying not to be “sexist”. Some people will just always find things to complain about. However, I thought this post was so true and hilarious! I had to share it with my girlfriends who also just happened to be my bridesmaids when I got married! 😛
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Who gives a shit if guys hate high waisted shorts? Their opinions on clothes dont matter at all.
Girls who want guy to think they’re attractive do. And EVERY guy I know HATES high waisted shorts.
I’m a girl and I hate high-waisted shorts. I don’t get the trend. I think they’re unflattering on everyone except those with model-type bodies (super tall and stick thin), which isn’t the majority of us.
Even on super thin model types, they create an illusion of pregnancy.
What type of guy do you want to attract? If it was me I’d rather wear what I like and attract someone who will take me as I am, rather than try to not be myself and make myself unhappy by trying to attract other guys. Guys also tend to find strippers attractive, but you wouldn’t start dressing like them & slinging yourself around a pole, would you?
Babysitting and nannying are “good practice?” Every one of these “lessons” alludes to depending on a man. Avoiding that should be the first piece of advice for any young woman.
Being able to care for your child if you want to be a mother has nothing to do with depending on a man! I can’t stand when liberal women act like a woman who wants to be a wife and/or mother is a bad thing! If you don’t want that, fine! Nobody is telling you that you are wrong for choosing to be single, focus on your career, etc. Somebody has to procreate or the world will end! 😉 Raising the future generation is a pretty important job, and it is at least a tad bit easier to do so with the help of a FATHER! Common sense is so hard for liberals to get sometimes. I think they fake half of their “scholarly intelligence” as well.
Don’t be so quick to get angry and be childish. She was just stating her opinion about the pattern she saw in the list, not once did she say she hasn’t a desire to become a wife and/or mother either. Also, not all liberals desire to be single with only a career to cherish their entire lives, but thank you for that little quip.
Not all liberals are anti-family just like not all conservatives are anti-women rights. You’re getting liberals and fridged feminist ideologues confused.
I wouldn’t even say fridged feminist ideologues. That sentiment is more of extreme, radical feminists who make up a small minority of feminists. In fact, care-based feminists are pro-family and pro-motherhood as are eco-feminist. We all aren’t fridged 😉 I’m a feminist and I look forward to being a mommy in the future (the very distant future).
Yikes. I’m a nanny and I think it is wonderful practice. I’m not ready for kids but it has taught me what to do and what not to do. Even if you work full time, it’s good to know his to raise your off spring. I know many career women with multiple children. They were all nannys or babysitters previously.
I don’t really understand which of these lessons suggest one needs to be dependent on a man. I’m not being antagonistic, I just honestly don’t know how you formed that opinion.
I think the only one that could vaguely suggest that is the nanny/babysitting thing, but really, that’s just an obvious statement. Clearly, if you want kids someday, caring for children would be “good practice.” Even then, you don’t have to be dependent on a man to have children. They simply make it a smudge easier to have them.
WRONG!! News flash: babies and children under 13 are part of the human race, like the adults that they eventually grow into. Just as you and I have to learn to work with/live with or near adults that aren’t like us, we ALSO have to learn how to live with kids–if not our own (I’m single and in my 50s) then the kids of neighbors, co-workers, relatives, etc. Depending on a man has nothing to do with it–there is no man in my life, and I am glad I learned (and am still learning) how to deal with babies and kids. Like adults, they can be fun, and they can also be a paiin in the butt. But I’m not in terror of becoming “Man dependent”, and neither will I avoid little ones. Sorry that you are so afraid of looking weak that you have decided to eliminate interaction with a sizeable chunk of the human race. And where would you be if all adults other than immediate family members had the same attitude that YOU have?
Loved this!!! Hope my granddaughter takes all this in! Lighten up hopeless ones. Recognize good advice and humor! Live life now. No regrets later. I’ve had a great life even with the pit falls.
This is Great. Learn it and/or you love it.
I LOVE THIS AND IT SUMMED UP MY COLLEGE YEARS PERFECTLY. TO HELL WITH ANYONE ELSE WHO THINKS DIFFERENTLY. SAVING THIS FOR MY NIECE!
A fifth of these are antithetical to my college years. So I’m hell bound for different experiences and thoughts? Thank you for 43, I’m still going to 23 where this list doesn’t suit me.
@Knows Better: It has nothing to do with depending on a man. Regardless if you’re a stay-at-home mom or a working mom, it would be good practice to know how to take care of children, you half-wit. I hope people “knows better” than listen to you. Great list! Thanks for sharing!
Such a fun article! Probably should be labeled 71 things though. #71 being don’t read comments because some people can just be really negative. Live and let live people! Don’t hate on someone writing their experience and sharing that experience with others!
agreed! I loved this list and it summed up a lot of life lessons I learned in college. I’m 25 and married now….and a lot of the things I’d pass on to younger girls are in this list. I especially like the God parts….we’re always going to be offending someone but that doesn’t mean you don’t have to stand up for what you believe in (just like you said in your list! your beliefs aren’t stupid!) Great job!
I know that getting a dog is probably not the best idea, but I’m still going to get one
Adopt!!!!!!!! Please!!!! I work at a rescue and so many babies need homes. Prepare yourself for a LIFETIME commitment. Not a “until you’re moving, stressed, have a boyfriend” commitment
Not everyone will agree with everything somone else may say. You may have a completely different interpretation of your twenties, and that is quite alright. This is simply advice from one person, if you think differently then you do know that you are always welcome to give your own personal advice
Simply, Fran
Loved this!
this was meant for fun.. but most of you have a giant stick up your butts. I feel sorry for people in your lives.. bunch of negative bitchy people.
Loved this! I don’t get the negativity. I don’t find this sexist or stupid in the list. I’m 23 and I think this is a great list!
Regardless of content, she got you to her blog = she wins. And now you all are arguing over whether or not a list is a good representation of her, or a woman’s, life. Carry on…
So much hate in this world. Good for you for learning these things in your twenties that some people won’t ever learn in their lives. I think the list in witty, funny and has good intentions. People, get over yourselves and your closed minded attitudes.
To all of you being negative.. The title of the post was 70 things that I learned in MY twenties… Meaning that these are things that she learned in her twenties not things that she thinks all twenty- somethings should do or believe in… I personally love this list and am in my twenties…I am married and am pregnant with our first and still love what this list says.. This is in no way sexist… She was just putting her ideas out there and this was a very thought provoking list..
Absolutely luvv it 😀 …2 all the negative critics… she had said if you “like” the list then u can follow her. No need for anything else. If u learned other things in ur 20’s, thats ur list. I learned all she said and more… females should feel empowered by learning life’s lessons and support each other through those lessons. Why hate on her for her thoughts and if you didnt like this list, then why waste the time to comment. No one should b offened by her listing anything. Smh… i will never understand why females act this way to each other
Loved it! Not sure why there is all this negativity! I definitely agree with 23(standing up for your beliefs) even when people like all of you try to shame me for loving Jesus or enjoying a witty list of things about being young. Everyone needs to chill out
I love how she mentioned God and I learned a lot of lessons that she has learn. I was a mom and married by 21. And feminism isn’t what it used to be. All Susan B Anthony wanted was women’s rights like vote and drive and be able to inherent what our men left behind. Now it’s hating on marriage men and babies. If you don’t want kids don’t have em. If you don’t believe in God that’s fine but don’t try to dictate what she believes. So ladies lots of love!
No, that’s not what feminism is at all actually. Google it and read the definition.
Margret Sanger. Enough said
Googled it: “the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men.”
Nice post
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Loved this! All so true!
I love this! I really needed to read this! Thank you so much!!
As a male (oh no you have been breached) I love this list and found it to be hilarious. And yes, high waisted jean shorts look nasty on everyone. That and those things that look like a baby’s onesie. If your bf/husband says he likes them, here is a hint, it’s a lie so you don’t get upset.
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Wow, the ridiculous rants of the selfritious. These are the thoughts of the poster, not scientific details of how everyone will live the rest of their lives. Geeze. I think you need to start looking more at yourselves and less at those around you for flaws. No one, including you out me are perfect and we all have our thoughts so let her have hers.
I can’t believe the rudeness of some people. This is her list, her thoughts and her opinions. Let’s all respect her or move on. As being someone in my final year of twenty-hood, this list reflects a lot on me. I think #26 (hope that the right number!) is my favorite. Traveling really is the best money spent. See the world, experience it and meet new people. That the best spent money!
I love it! Stop being mean ladies and actually read to learn if you haven’t already…
Good for you for standing up for what you believe in. I completely agree with this list. Very inspirational!
I’m a guy, and I think women who drink alcohol of any sort are a huge turn off.
Even a glass of wine with dinner? Get out in the real world.
“Get out in the real world”. Oh give me a break. I’ve been out in the “real world” for a long time, sister. People have their different reasons for not liking things and mine just so happens to be because I’ve been around people my whole life who have abused it. In fact, one of my exes abused it on a regular basis and I don’t want to deal with the whole alcohol thing ever again.
Your problem is with abusers, not consumers.
Right?! Because anyone and everyone who consumes alcohol abuses it. *Rolls eyes*
Cool! I believe that guys who think girls that drink are turn offs (while probably chugging it up, themselves) are turn offs!
For a Christian, the author sure offers excessive advice on alcohol consumption. Selective of those verses, are we?
My thoughts on drinking: http://diamonddiploma.com/bars-love-and-booze/
I’m not selective.
There are no “verses” that specifically say “don’t drink” only to avoid drinking to excess.
Wow… Really???
You’re in your twenties and still believe in God? I stopped reading after I found that out. Your advice couldn’t have been that good if you think I was made out of a rib and it hurts to have babies because some chick long time ago ate a fruit after a snake told her to. Not to mention there’s some dude in the sky watching us all the time. Yeah…no.
I think you are being a bit too literal… I mean, Genesis is written as Hebrew Poetry and much of it is metaphorical.
What logical explanation would you accept for creating something out of nothing?
Good question, isn’t that the whole idea behind evolution as well?
I wish the only thing I had to worry about in my 20s was hanging out with my best girlfriends, drinking, what you wear, and “stupid” boys. My list would include living frugally, sustainability, serious relationships, and discovering diversity in people and opinions. I agree, this list does not apply to everyone.
It’s not meant to apply to everyone. It’s HER OWN personal list.
As an almost 30 year old (just a few more months) – most of this was spot on… expect for #8. I believe you meant and, not or.
This should be under opinion or personal lessons learned not under college, life lessons.
I fully understand why some people are upset by this.
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This was meant to be a little humorous people can take things too far. I happen to think it’d hilarious and I’m still in my 20’s.
I love this list. While reading the comments I saw a lot of people commenting on how this was feminist and sexist. The whole idea of a feminist movement was to give women the option to do what they wanted, to work where they wanted, and not be discriminated against. I think if more women focused on some of the lessons and less on being judgementa, we’d have more two parent homes, children who are respectful, and more. We need more women who have the values of women from past decades!
People always want to start a fight. This is the opinion of 1 person. As the saying goes, an opinion is like an asshole, everyone has one. If you like, great! If you don’t, great! Please don’t berate someone for putting something out there you chose to read.
Don’t like it. Fine. But don’t be mean. We’re supposed to be raising each other up, not putting each other down. This is why we, women, will never be equal. We’re always at each others throats. I, personally, loved the list. It doesn’t all pertain to me. But the bits that do, are great.
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To the girls who are wondering where the term “weaker sex” came from.. It comes from 1 Peter 3:7 and actually says “weaker vessel” (ESV). As a male, when I get married” I’m called to love my wife AS CHRIST LOVES HIS CHURCH. In an unconditional way. That I will protect her. Provide for her. That I well NEVER leave her. I will NEVER raise my hand to her. I will take a bullet for her in a heartbeat.
I feel like if we had more men of God, rather than boys who cheat, leave their pregnant girlfriend, and don’t take responsibility for their actions… There wouldn’t be as many feminists, who want to be a man, rather than just drive and vote.
Coming from a 21 year old, a college student, wife and mother, this list is filled with lesson that I am learning now. Every one has different experiences and opinions, however, there is no need to attack another person for sharing what he or she has learned. The old phrase learn from others mistakes comes to mind. Maybe the writer wanted to save some 20 something girls the heartache and give a little life foreshadowing since she has been there recently. Now, as for those who believe this post is sexist, so be it- no need to judge or hate someone because of a set goal. If one’s goal is to marry at 19 work everyday to be a good wife and please her husband and become a mother by the time she is 21, it is not wrong; nor is it wrong to set a goal to be a single, independent working woman. The personal fulfillment of the set goal is the same- personal happiness. That should not be taken away from any one: male or female
How does #70, glorify God, go with all the other numbers about excessive drinking? The two are mutually exclusive. Let’s give up the lie that we can do both.
There is nothing in the list mentioning excessive drinking. She mentions good margaritas, her preference of vodka to wine, and she says drinking and driving isn’t worth it. You can be a quality Christian and consume alcohol, the key is in not abusing it.
Great list! Lots of tips with biblical foundations, but maybe try a little less drinking and add something about the freshman 15 being a lifestyle choice 😉
I believe this this list is great. Some of you women are being a tad over sensitive. I’m still in my early 20s but I have a child that I work my ass off for, I’ve always lived for myself. Even with a man by my side I do not depend on him, but I was still able to relate to this.
This is a great list! If you don’t like it then it just go away from her blog! Or have you not learned no one made you read this or is making you agree with it? Quit being so rude!!! If anyone is making women look bad it’s women that treat other women so poorly.
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Why are people so upset…if you didn’t like it, it wasn’t for you. Get your lessons somewhere else. I liked it. It wasn’t sexist. It wasn’t ridiculous, relax y’all
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I thought this was a great article! Good job Ruby! #34 made me laugh, I just got a puppy and yes it is a lot of work but I’m learning to be patient and loving! A mature lady like yourself will surely ignore the negative comments and look at the positive. Have a blessed day!
The comments on this page make me sad.
1. Because a lot of people have no idea what feminism is and are relying on stereotypes of “radical, militant, man-hating lesbians” instead of just looking up the pure, definition which is basically a movement against sexist oppression, be it social, economic, or political, that’s it
2. A lot of the feminists who are commenting are being too judgmental and kind of mean instead of attempting to clarify their points and engaging in intelligent debate. Quit flamethrowing, sisters.
Overall, great list.
I liked this, almost completely. There was quite a few mentions of God and Godly living, as well as a few references to drinking and not in ways that were against it. That’s a fine line to be playing with… I would hope that a Godly lifestyle was a clean one. I did like this post, just thought I’d share my perspective on why that stuck out to me.
I’m not trying to bash you or your religion… but just because you drink alcohol or even smoke marijuana doesn’t mean you don’t live a ‘clean’ or ‘Godly’ lifestyle, that’s pretty judgmental. Which your God condemns. Alcohol or marijuana doesn’t make you any less of a Christian. And by the way I’ve been to many different types of churches/places of worship and only have I consumed alcohol in a Christian/Catholic church..
There is no where in the Bible that states that when Jesus walked the Earth he did marijuana and drank alcohol and was drunk and acted foolish because of it. There is old wine and new wine in the Bible (Matthew 26:26-30). Those that drank wherein access had to have consumed wine that was fermented (old wine) (Ephesians 5:18-19), therefore impairing judgment. God NEVER did this. Drinking alcohol and smoking marijuana isn’t living a clean life style, hence the phrase “I got clean,” which implies that you don’t do this anymore (Proverbs 20:1, Romans 14:21, . As Christians we aren’t supposed to live and do the things which are of the world (1 Corinthians 6:9-11&20; Romans 12:1-2). These types of drugs hinder our relationship with the Lord. How can you drink alcohol, get a hangover and glorify God in that, you can’t! And you’re right it doesn’t make you any less of a Christian, it is just a sin that displeases the Lord. If you feel condemned by it, then maybe you should change your life style.
Excellent Post!
Uplifting and Encouraging and Empowering.
This list was funny…as to why it talks about drinking so much, prolly because college makes you want to drink a lot lol. And as far as being sexist, naah. Its not. Its really not. You all could use some more wine. A good man doesnt want a loud, abrasive woman. And please dont respond with “oh I have a man, blah blah blah, bitch bitch bitch”…I didnt say men. I said good men. Good men who love their wives and take care of their kids. Ijs Im 25 and I thought it was pretty accurate.
Y’all are ridiculous. How is this sexist? I’m a 24 year old guy about to graduate college. I read that whole list and the majority of what’s on there can easily apply to guys as well. Minus the heels, leggings, etc.
Baby sitting? Yea that’s probably a good idea cause I certainly am not going to leave baby duties up to whoever I marry and I want to be able to take care of my kids.
Maybe it’s just my southern way of thinking. Idk.
This was probably meant to be a cute little something, not a debate about degrees and it being sexist.
#71. Choose only a few bridesmaids because apparently 3 out of 5 will bitch about everything.
First world, millennial feminists are so whiny over nothing. I’m gonna need you gals to go live in the Middle East and North Africa and then start talking female liberation. Ugh!
In any case, while some of these lessons on the list were kind of obvious, I found some useful and uplifting. I’m 20 and I’m still staying in an apartment, but I may just try the house thing out. Lol. I also love the mentions of God. Always keep Him in the picture and things will go right (In my experience). Good post!
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OMG….do some of you hear yourselves? This is a person who writes there blogs. If you don’t like it stop reading it. Plus, stop taking everything so seriously and over analyzing everything thing that is written.
Exactly. It’s her own personal thoughts. I think some people only like to bring people down instead of supporting them.
Why is everyone saying this is sexist. I think someone had their opinion and everyone else just hopped on the bandwagon from that. This is what SHE learned from her 20’s. Everyone is going to have a different list. Have any of you taken the time out to reflect on your 20’s and if so what did you learn. Everyone’s list is going to be different. Stop being so critical of every single blog you read. I loved the list. Some things I didn’t agree with, but overall the list was amazing.
There be trolls here!
Some people are just so unhappy with their lives or just naturally negative people that they try to find a problem with anything they read. Racist and/or sexist undertones are what they strive to find in this world. The populace used to have a much thicker skin, but that’s been worn thin by negativity – which, strangely enough, is the opposite of what tolerance should be. We want tolerance and equality, but we’re negative about how to achieve it.
I am not a woman, but I was once in my 20s, and I think this list is great. Any time a positive outlook on life can be handed down to another generation in a non-condescending way it should be applauded and encouraged.
As a woman in her 20s now, I found a lot of what Ruby said to be very true. And guess what, this is a blog for fun and giggles, why can’t we just read something without having to get it posts being “sexist.” Also, if you read a blog written by a Christian, you are going to hear Christian things. Everyone screams for tolerance, well here is something most people miss, everyone wants tolerance for what they believe in and go crazy on everyone else. And ladies, you were made a woman for a reason, we ARE wired differently than men. Should we be treated with respect and be given the same opportunities? Of course! There is nothing wrong with staying at home and doing the traditional homemaker and there is nothing wrong with working in an office, each of us have our own, unique stories and they are beautiful. I am about to graduate with my undergrad in elementary education, then plan on getting my masters right away, but I also plan to raise a family. Stop trying to find something to argue about. Stop trying to find reasons why being a women is bad. Stop disrespecting the views of others while you stand and scream that others tolerate you, that is plain hypocrisy. Blessings beautiful ladies! Thank you Ruby
This is exactly what I was thinking. On a side note, I’m an elementary education major too
OMFG – I thought this was a great little piece. I cant believe all these people with their negative comments… I hope you realize that all you have achieved is make yourself look Dumb. You should be forced to leave your real name when the comment is negative.
Not drinking > wine or vodka.
To my daughter: My grandfather thought “only a little bit was ok”. After that first “little bit” came a lifetime of disaster for my grandparents, my parents and, by God’s grace, it stopped with me. Alcohol is one of those optional things in life and it’s a fool’s option.
1) To everyone who is saying this is sexist and keep trying to bring equality into the picture:
Men and women will never ever ever ever be equal no matter how hard we try. We are just different. We think different we are genetically different. We can get close in the work place, but as for feelings and and life experiences we will always and forever be different.
2) To everyone calling this blog stupid:
Get a life. This is 70 things SHE learned in her 20’s. Not 70 things you should learn in your 20’s. She’s not asking you to do anything on the list. She’s not asking you to follow her beliefs. Heck, she’s not even asking you to agree with her. This PERSONAL BLOG isn’t something to live by. It is just simply insight in what COULD (not definitely) happen in a YOUNG WOMAN’S 20’s.
This was a great article, this article actually was the first time I stumbled upon diamond diploma and LOVE IT. As a 24 year old, CHRISTIAN, college graduate finding her place in life, these articles are awesome.
For anyone who disagreed with this and brought sexism into the conversation, perhaps you shouldn’t read posts from a site called DIAMOND DIPLOMA.
Keep on posting these beliefs of life and marriage ladies!
In my opinion this is a good post even if I don’t agree with every little thing, which I don’t. Honestly I’ve never understood how people can be so hateful, especially when it’s just a matter of differing opinions.
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Take it from a 54-year old woman (who’s still 25 in her head), All of these are true. The only one I would correct is #1. Apartment living IS expensive (and worthless). Buy a house and rent rooms to your girl friends.
If you’re in your 20’s now, it seems like you’ll never grow old. But take it from me, you will, and it definitely sneaks up on you. One day, you’re 25. The next day, you wake up and you’re 50. NEVER take anything for granted; your parents, your friends, your siblings won’t be there forever. Love them, don’t let petty differences get in the way of your relationship.