5 years ago I weighed 13 pounds less. After a terrible breakup I ran every single day. I hit the pavement non-stop, and I told that pavement I was BOSS. I felt great. I was in good shape and felt incredibly confident, not to mention, all my clothes fit me perfectly. Then, I met a guy. I met the one. And in the first 3 months alone, I gained 5 pounds.
5 pounds may not seem like a lot, but in girl world, you notice that. Especially when you’re very thin — 5 pounds is not considered “afternoon weight” or “fluctuating.” Y’all can name-call all you want, but I noticed every single pound. Now, don’t get me wrong, I felt confident in my own body, it’s just my body felt a lot better in my clothes 5 pounds ago, and now they just seemed snugger.
Now, here’s the issue. I got married. It was bad enough I put on the relationship 5 and my clothes were snug, but after that I put on the marriage 5… or 8…. Potentially 10? Forget it, let’s call it the marriage 10… things got super snug. I’m definitely not overweight. I still look good. But, I’m not as thin as I was.
And fact is, I have a problem with that, because my weight gain isn’t bad enough to really want to fix, but I also do not want to buy new clothes. I REFUSE TO BUY NEW CLOTHES. That’s giving up. And giving up on 10ish pounds seems crazy. So, what do I do? I buy dresses in the same size I always bought them– dresses tend to be more forgiving. I’ve really expanded my dress collection since putting on some weight — but buying a larger size of pants or shorts — FORGET IT. I’M NOT BUYING THEM. That’s caving. I REFUSE TO CAVE.
So, what do I do? Oh I just feel claustrophobic when I put on all my pairs of pants nowadays. So I try and get creative, and wear a long shirt to cover my open button and zipper — because I feel like I can’t breathe when I zip it…. Seriously, when I wear pants nowadays, I can’t wait to get out of them… and as much as my husband wants to believe it’s because I’m frisky – it’s because I NEED OUT OF THEM.
So, to the people who judge me…. I do not think I’m fat! So stop rolling your eyes at me when I say I need to lose 10 pounds. I am not anorexic or whatever you may call me. I just want my old pants back. You know those 10 cute pairs I can’t wear anymore… or those pants I got at Christmastime, but only wore twice, because I SWORE I would lose that weight.
I’m not crazy. I just miss my wardrobe. And to be honest, I’m also sick of seeing girls with these super cute bodies at the beach or pool, and thinking, WOW I USED TO LOOK JUST LIKE THAT. So, can someone just cut me some slack please, and not judge me for wanting to lose weight? I’m sick of people telling me I look perfect and I’m crazy to want to change myself. I NEED A CHEERLEADER! CAN SOMEONE JUST SUPPORT ME?
So, to all the girls out there that needs to lose 10 pounds. I’m your cheerleader — I’ll be your cheerleader if you’ll be mine.
You’ve got this… and those jeans miss you…. They really really miss you.
The girl who misses her jeans.
This made my day. Exactly how I feel now that I’ve gained my “relationship 5” or “happy fat”, but now I’d rather cook dinner for my boyfriend than go run…. Oops
I’m right there with ya! Gained my relationship 5. I want it gone! But I’m so happy it’s hard to be mad about that.
Needed to read this…so glad I’m not the only one who feels this way. Anytime I tell my friends I’m trying to loose a few pounds they roll their eyes at me and say I’m perfectly fine. I definitely needed a cheerleader! I’m not fat, but I wanna lost 7-10 pounds! Cheering you on- thank you!!!
I hear you! I put on 20 pounds after getting married and I want to get back to being slimmer, only I always feel silly talking about losing weight. This is exactly what I needed to read!
Does this not apply to every woman ever? I’m a little bit worse off than you are, gaining 13 pounds after my freshman year of college (wait… that was a real thing? Seriously thought it was just a lie my dad said to make me by the cheaper meal plan…) and not being able to wear those super cute clothes I got the summer I went off for college. *Sigh… they were cute. I’d appreciate a cheerleader as well!
This is exactly what i needed to hear! I am right there with you. Wow, I’ll be your cheerleader!!!
I didn’t gain the “relationship 5 or 10”, but I stopped working out for months due to some accidents, and I only gains a couple pounds, but mostly noticed I lost ALL muscle tone and somewhat right figure I had when very active! So it’s nice to see others who want to loose a few or get back to what they used to be, but are far from overweight and all. I’m only a few inches over 5ft so ever little change I can notice.
Here’s To feeling better & looking better for OURSELVES, because we want it!
WE CAN DO THIS GiRLS!
I just read this and felt like I was reading my own thoughts! This is exactly how I feel. I will def be your cheerleader if you’ll be mine! I want my dress pants back!
Wow, I’ve been having this same struggle in my head for a couple of weeks now. Ever since I put on a pair of pants and had to unbutton them to breathe! For me, being a single mother it’s hard to find the time to go work and living in a small town where there is no gym is only aiding my excuses as to why I can’t work out. This has given me the motivation I need. So glad to know I’m not alone in this. I get so tired of hearing people tell me how skinny I am and how I don’t need to work out. Thank you for being my cheerleader and motivating me. I’ll definitely return the favor and be yours!
Yes. I agree. Once someone told me that after a certain age, you just gain weight. That motivated me and I got my waistline back. Advice: Don’t talk about it to people. Just do it. If you’re already one of the pretty ones, it only makes the ordinary fold feel jealous. With ten pounds, you may still look hot in bikini anwyay. So, just do it and realize this nation is in a crisis in which overweight people don’t get job the same rate of offers, screen time etc. It’s like a millionaire complaining that he’s not a billionaire. It lacks sensitivity. That’s all. Even so, just rock it out. You can do it!
This is me! I thought I was the only one who felt this way! People always say “Your not fat, you don’t need to lose weight.” Just because I’m not fat doesn’t mean that I don’t need to lose 8 to 10 pounds! One problem is it’s so hard to lose weight when your not fat, it just won’t come off no matter what I try! It’s like my body is fighting against me! But I will lose the weight! I will defiantly be a cheerleader for all of you! “We’ve Got This!!!!”