1. You’re not always right, even when you think you are.
2. No matter how much you try to make your lives sync perfectly, there will always be hiccups. You’re both your own person.
3. Have boundaries. Sometimes you just need your own space and time alone. As much as you want to follow him around the house, you need to remember that he’s human; he needs time to rest his mind. (Same the other way around)
4. You can’t make a messy person into a cleaner, just like you can’t make somebody a morning person.
5. One more time… you can’t make somebody a morning person!
6. Marriage doesn’t magically make you closer to God just because you’ve removed a big temptation in your life. You have to pursue God to be close to Him. Marriage isn’t the fix all.
7. Teamwork is the best work. When you clean together and help each other with projects around the house, it’s not only faster, but more fun.
8. It’s important to remember you’re not old married people. Take time to find your inner college kid and have fun together.
9. As much as having a routine may seem boring, there’s something very comforting about knowing you have the love of your life and best friend coming home to you every night – five days out of the week you get to repeat the same thing over and over again. Work. Home.Wine. Dinner. Show. Get ready for bed. Cuddle ;). Repeat. And as boring as this may sound, you learn to love it and miss it when it changes.
10. If you’re starting to count all the little annoying things he does, ask yourself, “is it worth getting mad about?” It probably is NOT.
11. It’s good to combine your bank accounts, and then ACTUALLY live responsibly. As much as people like to pretend the whole separate bank account thing is a good idea, it isn’t. You eventually will start to resent each other. One may save more than the other, and when a money grabbing emergency comes up, you could end up having a… “well it’s MY money!” argument. It should be OUR money. It’s smart to be saving and planning for the future – together, not separately. And if one person is a spender, it’s time to realize that a part of growing up is living on a budget. Get with the program!
12. He probably only wants you to buy that brand of food because his mom bought that brand of food. Explain to him there’s a new woman in town.
13. Speaking of Mom, it’s important to treat his family like your own. Don’t choose favorites. This is a hard task, but I’m tellin’ you… some of the worst arguments are over which family gets which holiday. It’s not even worth it.
14. Don’t hold in what’s bothering you. Tell him in a calm way. You don’t want to collect everything that’s upsetting you, and then explode.
15. Remember to communicate. At the end of the day, take time to ask him about his day. Put your phone down, turn the TV off, put your computer away and give him your full attention.
16. Make time to date each other. Just because you’re married you shouldn’t stop going on cute and creative dates.
17. Children are a big deal. Make sure you’re on the same page on when to have them, how you will raise them, etc. Be open about planning, even if you want to wait a couple years. Be prepared for surprises. Plus, it can be fun to talk about the future.
18. It’s important to pray and have bible studies together. Life has so many distractions, but I constantly need to remind myself that God is the glue that holds my marriage together and makes it so successful. I couldn’t do it without Him.
19. Compliment your husband. Make him feel like he could conquer the world. Talk him up. Say wonderful things about him even when he’s not around. These actions will make him stronger and more successful.
20. Keep the love and attraction alive. Don’t give up.