Love at first sight. We know it well. But does it ever work out?
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve received phone calls from friends saying things like, “I just met my future husband,” “I met my DREAM man,” “I met the most perfect man last night,” “I found my next boyfriend.”
Typically, when we first meet a man, it IS perfect. This happens because we DON’T know them yet. If only every man were as perfect as he is in the first 10 minutes of knowing him. This is an important tid-bit to remember before making any rash decisions. As strong of a connection you may feel in those first 10 minutes, who’s to say it will remain?
Sometimes we hold on to the initial feelings for too long and it downright hurts us. We replay the initial encounter and play the lyrics to “It Was Enchanting to Meet You” over and over in our heads. We call our friends and family, and share the good news, and thank God for bringing “the one” into our lives…. And then BAM. He doesn’t text you back.
…. And all your family and friends follow up with, “How are you and… what’s his name?”
I hate bringing this up, because I feel like I’m smashing fairy tales, but listen… fairy tales do happen, but not all stories have happy endings. If they did, you’d have like 20 Prince Charmings and, although that sounds appealing, it’s not — nobody has time for that.
So here’s my advice:
Protect your heart. Take things slow. Get to know the person. There’s no need to rush.
I know this is hard to do when your heart is screaming “BUT I’M IN LOVE!” But, the truth is, when it’s right, everything will fall into place. You will not be watching your phone 24/7 waiting for his call and text because he will actually contact you. And you won’t have to show up to all his favorite places hoping to see him again, because he will actually reach out to you.
As much as we want to play God with dating, we can’t. Meeting your future husband will be in God’s time.
I know we are mainly discussing the initial meeting, but this applies to people who’ve been dating for awhile and it’s not going anyhere. You shouldn’t be waiting on his feelings to grow. It’s a two way street — you should be growing together.
Don’t place a man on a pedestal. Put yourself on the pedestal and wait for him to join you. If he doesn’t, the right man will.