I’ve changed a lot over the years, especially when it comes to style. I remember back in 6th grade I wore colorful clothes with a long braid down the back of my neck, but by the end of middle school I was wearing skateboarding clothes and was a self proclaimed “skater-dater.” By Freshman year of high school I ditched the skater scene and was determined to be seen as “older.” I used this time of my life to show as much skin as possible, without getting in trouble. I would pull my jean skirt and shirt down as far as they could possibly go, but when I would get out of my mom’s car I would let them ride up as far as possible – naughty! This definitely gained the attention of high school boys, but I quickly discovered it wasn’t the attention that I wanted. From that point on my style got classier and by senior year — call me Jackie Kennedy.
I’ve always been the type of person that learned from my own and others mistakes. It’s a blessing in a lot of ways, but I think sometimes many girls will make the same mistake 100 times, then do it 100 more times just to make sure those other 100 times were really that bad.
I learned early in life that my body wasn’t bait. I also learned quickly that using my body to attract men doesn’t really bring in the best type of guys. Problem is, many girls still haven’t learned this lesson. They are still making the same mistake every single time they go out. They never grew out of the teenage mentality of baring it all to try and get some attention. They never realized they were attracting the wrong type of guys, because sadly, they still aren’t aware that gentlemen exist. Recently, I was scrolling down my Facebook timeline and started to become very frustrated.
It looks like Miley Cyrus is dressing most of the females on my newsfeed, because their clothes are the opposite of class or not even really there. They look like rebellious teenagers. Except, unfortunately, they don’t have a mom screaming at them saying “get back inside and change.” Although, I wish they did. So here it goes girls, if you’re still dressing like a teenager, I’m going to be your mother right now….
“GET BACK IN THE HOUSE AND CHANGE!”
If you’re wearing: 1. High heels and short shorts 2. Crop tops and short shorts 3. Low scooped shirts to show your new breast implants or 4. Tight spandex short dresses that are hanging on to your rear for their dear life— We’ve got a problem. A big problem.
Because A. You’re trying to attract a man that isn’t respecting you for you B. You’re insecure and feel that your body is all that you have to offer C. You want people to gawk at you so that your confidence is boosted D. You’re competing to look hotter than your so called “friends” or E. Your friends are dressing that way, so you want to fit in. (Like you’re still in high school)
You girls deserve better.
You deserve a guy that loves you for you. You deserve friends that accept you and know you. And most importantly, you deserve to be WARM on a cold night. Come on, you girls must be freezing with all that skin showing!
When you reach your 20 somethings, in my opinion, you really shouldn’t be baring it all and on a dance floor meeting random men. It’s time to grow up. You had an excuse when you were younger to behave that way, because you were young, lacked experience/smarts, and you hadn’t lived and learned, but now you can’t use that excuse anymore.
Life is so much more than your body, the next guy, bars, clubbing, and drinking. And if you want to have a life of any substance, you need to realize that. You will never meet a great guy while living your life like a crazy college student or rebellious teenager. You will meet a man that will use you up and lose you. A life of baring it all and drinking it all will take a toll on your life. A lot of you girls are behaving like Miley when they should be acting like Kate Middleton.
Kate acted like a princess, dressed like a princess, spoke like a princess, and had the class of a princess — and guess what? She literally found a prince and married him. The same rule applies here, if you dress like your body is all that you have to offer, you will find a man that only wants to get to know your body. You need to believe in yourself, you can be a Kate. Don’t take the easy route and act like Miley.
Please don’t tell me that I must be “fat” because I feel this way. I heard this so many times on my modesty blog. I’m 5’4 and 115 pounds… And modest clothes are incredibly cute. Look at Kate Middleton — HOW COULD ANYONE NOT WANT HER WHOLE WARDROBE? I want it. I need it. I’ve gotta have it.
I believe there is a classy outfit suitable for anywhere — even clubs.
So, here is a question for you:
WOULD YOU RAHTER BE THIS
Think about that.
Ps. I’m not saying all girls should dress like Kate Middleton. I think other styles are great! I’m just using her as an example.