(Oh yes, he did.)
After an emotional break-up, there comes a point in time that you “think” you’re over it. You’re over it all– over his perfect smile, over crying about him, over Facebook stalking, over the urge to text him — you’re completely over him, right?
The moment you think you’ve truly moved on reality will slap you in the face. One day you’ll be driving and see an identical car to his and creepily speed up to see if it’s him. Another time you’ll be out and bump into his friend, then awkwardly feel like you have to make small talk when you have absolutely nothing in common but your ex. Or the most annoying– you will be having a great time with the girls and then “your song” will come on.
In the above scenarios your heart reminds your brain of all the feelings you’ve shoved to the back of your mind. Once these emotions are surfaced, you start to silently go on an emotional roller-coaster ride. Does he ever think of me? How is he doing? Do I miss him? Shoot, I miss him. I wonder if he misses me? These emotions will probably only last the remainder of the day, and then you’ll get distracted, go to bed, and push all those questions & emotions to the back of your mind again.
But let’s be honest, that was just the kiddy-coaster. Nothing compares to the emotional ride you’ll go on once you finally see it. What’s it? It’s a picture of him and his new girl on your Newsfeed. One that he posted himself, which completely validates them being a thing.
First your heart will race; each second you look at the picture seems like FOREVER. Then comes the lump in your throat and the strange feeling in your stomach. At this point of your emotional roller-coaster ride you find yourself at the top of a big plunge. Your next step is a 90 degree drop straight into every social media outlet this girl has. WHO IS SHE? Where did she come from? How could this happen?
Then you enter the crazy loops on the coaster. You immediately contact your best friends and they reassure you how much prettier you are than her. But let’s be honest, the girl is probably cute. They always are.
Fact is, it hurts. Seeing your past with a new future — it’s heartbreaking. It reopens every wound. It tears you up inside. But there is one good thing that it does do — it makes you stronger. It tells your heart that it’s over so that you can finally move on. I’m not saying it will be easy, but what I do know, it will get easier. If you left that past relationship on good terms, one day you’ll wake up feeling happy for him, because you will finally see why God intended for you both to go separate ways.
I know it’s tacky, but I think there is so much truth to the song “God blessed the broken road.”
Put this broken road behind you and move forward. Even if it means blocking your ex from your Newsfeed so that you can comfortably move forward.
God will only give you what you can handle.
You’ve got this,
Funniest thing ever. So true. All of it.
Just encountered a group of married and engaged men on a bachelor party over the weekend who acted like they were single…. and I was disgusted! Terrifying to see that these guys who had committed just a few years earlier completely disregarded their wedding bands..not visiting the old boyfriend graveyard is perfect here to ensure you don’t end up with someone who lacks respect and self control. I just vented about it in my blog so this was a great read.