I attend a college bible study where I live in Northern California. I believe the phrase that I hear from 99.9% of the girls there is this, “I am so ready to have a husband and be married.” Now, I am only 19 years old, but I believe I’m beyond my years when it comes to wisdom. I think I’ve begun to roll my eyes at this phrase, especially since the girls who are saying this are clearly not ready to be married or have a relationship at all.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I cant wait to be married either! When I think of it, I get all giddy and excited and can’t stop smiling. I imagine a beautiful ring on my left hand and hearing sappy love songs and preparing the wedding of my dreams… yes I am a girl too when it comes to these things. But after becoming a Christian and learning about what God intends for marriage, my entire list of priorities changed.
I feel like a lot of girls haven’t heard this and need to understand that marriage is not just about selfish desires and finding a husband to make YOU happy. Marriage is about building one another up, and finding a partner who is going to put God in front of you and help you become the person you were meant to be. The question that some girls fail to ask is, “Would I make a Godly wife?” I mean, honestly ladies, do you believe that you are ready to put someone else’s needs in front of yours and do everything you need to do in order to be a Proverbs 31 woman?
I know that I have some growing to do! You have to understand that marriage isn’t all butterflies and rainbows, living in a house together without bills or problems and never worrying about anything else in life, because your husband works and all you do is stay home and clean up the kitchen.
When you get married, you have to love your husband unconditionally. It’s not a one-way street. He is going to mess up, but you have to forgive. He is also going to do things that probably will get on your nerves sometimes. That’s when you know that your husband is your leader, and you respect him and want to help him grow as well. You stand behind him in everything he does, and you remain a quiet-spoken woman while he speaks. You pray for him, and you pray together.
These are qualities you have to seriously consider while you are dating someone. Do I respect him? Will he make a Godly husband? Can I place him as my leader? Yes, these are hard questions, but marriage is so much more than just falling in love with someone. Marriage is so much more than feelings in general. So, like I said, it isn’t about finding a man who simply makes you feel good. Marriage is a partnership, and marriage was made to glorify God. So before you rant on and on about how you are so ready for a husband, make sure you are ready to be a Godly wife.