I’m single awareness day.

February 14th… a day dreaded by most single women. I don’t know what it is about holidays, but they always seem to correspond with break up season. I can bet that 90% of women have once been victim of being lonely on their birthday, Christmas, New Year’s, or the worst… Valentine’s Day.

If you’re feeling down because you’re single this Valentine’s Day, I have a pick me up for you! Let me tell you about my February 14th, 2012. Prior to this dreadful day I had been dating a man by long distance for approximately 4.5 months. I was completely head over heels for him. At first the long distance didn’t bother me because we talked constantly & he visited quite often. We also had this weird habit of sending each other a song every day, corny but whatever. I fell hard for this one. The last time I saw him was New Year’s 2012, and things were beyond perfect, so I thought… but that’s another story.

My relationship was going great with him until life got in the way. I started a new job, and he became busy with work… and it complicated things… and our communication & visiting became less. We all know that horrible feeling when you realize your relationship is fizzling out. It sucks. In a last attempt to save our relationship, I went out and found the perfect Valentine’s Day card for him, and I wrote a really sweet personal message inside. As I stamped the envelope I was feeling extremely confident that everything was going to be okay… Little did I know that later that evening we would break up! FOUR DAYS BEFORE VALENTINES DAY.

As you can imagine, I was devastated. Not only did we break up, but now I had this lovey-dovey Valentine’s Day card in route to his house. Talk about embarrassing. When the dreaded day came I found myself home alone… with Franzia, ice-cream & ALL of those stupid songs we’d sent to each other. I was a pathetic mess. In this moment I seriously hated Valentine’s Day! I thought it was the dumbest, most stupid day of the year. I caught myself even saying that it was a “made up Hallmark holiday.”

Now a year later I started thinking… Valentine’s Day didn’t do me wrong. A man did me wrong. REALLY WRONG. I shouldn’t be bitter because I was single on this day, I should be rejoicing that I didn’t spend this romantic holiday in the company of a self-centered, hypocritical prick. I mean… it wasn’t Valentine’s Day’s fault that I was going through a really bad break up. In all honesty, I kinda love Valentine’s Day, especially when I’m in a relationship… but if not, I guess it is the easiest day to find a date! I don’t believe that any one truly hates February 14th, they just hate the feeling of being lonely. But don’t we all?

So, instead of staying in sulking this year, I’m going to do the complete opposite! Who said Valentine’s Day is limited to showing your affection to a guy anyway? Valentine’s Day is all about love, right? This year I went out and mailed all my dearest friends & family members precious little cards. I find joy in knowing that by showing my love for them, I might have made their Valentine’s Day a little more special! … And to me that’s better than receiving a dozen roses!

So, you’re single? WHO CARES! There is absolutely no reason to be lonely on this silly day. Embrace it! You have to remember that God’s timing is perfect. He’s just taking a little extra time to write your fairy-tale! Once you find that special somebody, you’ll have a whole lifetime to spend Valentine’s Day with a man. You want to know what I’m doing this year? I’m spending my Valentine’s Day with one of my dearest friends. She too is single and we plan on sneaking a bottle of wine (or two!) into a movie theater to watch Safe Haven! I don’t know about you, but that sounds a lot more fun to me than waiting an hour to be seated in an overpriced restaurant!

Love y’all & Happy Valentine’s Day!
-Ruby

(DiamondDiploma Contributor- learn more about me in the writer’s tab!)