Weirdness.

Contributor: Ruby

I’ve said it once & I’ll say it again, true love is when you’ve found your equal counterpart in weirdness!

Ladies, let’s be honest with ourselves… we are some strange creatures, and men are even weirder. I don’t know about y’all, but when I’m home by myself I’ll dance in front of mirrors, talk to myself in ridiculous voices, walk around in the nude, and when I’m with my closest friends I’ll sing my little heart out, show off my incredibly strange dance moves, and impersonate some weird voices… etc, etc. It’s these simple silly things that we do alone or with our closest friends that determine how comfortable we are with someone.

We’ve all heard the age old saying “the key to marriage is marrying your best friend.” Yeah well easier said than frikken done! Like most, I’m shy & reserved until you get to know me… and even then there is a very limited amount of people who actually “know me, know me” in all of my weirdness. So in my mind, when I hear couples say “I married my best friend” I picture all of the strange things I’ve seen that person do and automatically assume that their spouse is equally as weird… and then I think it’s adorable!

Now just because a guy acts weird and comfortable around you, that doesn’t mean he is perfect for you… because weird is not always cute… and depending on the guy, it could just be plain creepy. You have to be able to understand and accept the other person’s weirdness for it to be cute and romantic. There are plenty of weird guys that do VERY weird things in front of you, and it’s just incredibly unattractive!

I’ve encountered a plethora of weirdo guys… Some good, most bad. I’ve discovered that in the beginning of every new relationship there is a make it or break it moment of weirdness that determines the future. When the moment of weirdness is too strange you’ll start to think to yourself, “Wow, this person is a total creep, what the heck did I get myself into?” Maybe he’s the type of guy who just passes gas WAY too much… or we’ve all met that guy who is so overly in love with his dog, that it makes you feel so uncomfortable that you get the sudden urge to dial the ASPCA hotline for bestiality… Then there is the obsessive momma’s boy, the guys who dance like Elaine from Seinfield, the one who cares more about his hair than you do your own, the guys who think it’s okay to talk dirty to you when you’re clearly not on that level…. Okay, I need to stop bashing my exes. Oops! When these bad moments of weirdness happen we always search for the quickest exit out! We’ll start distancing ourselves from this guy… avoiding him while you’re out, ignoring texts, etc. Eventually the relationship will fizzle out and you’ll tell all your friends what a creep he is. Now let’s pray you figured out how weird this guy was before you became FBO, because that’s just embarrassing.

Then there is the cute weird. I consider this the guy who feels completely comfortable impersonating hilarious voices infront of you, embarrassing himself by showing you one of his weird talents… like yodeling, or if he can simply laugh at himself when he sings off key or shows you some weird dance move he learned. It’s so incredibly cute when a guy can laugh at himself! It makes a girl feel special, because you see him letting his guard down… which makes you feel more safe in the relationship.

Now, you have to remember you’re weird too! Which is why it’s important to find someone that you can be weird with! I’ll never forget this incredibly precious guy I went on a date with… middate he started blurting out the lyrics to Titanic, and started doing all the hand motions. I couldn’t stop laughing, and it was so incredibly cute to see him embarrassing himself so openly.. In that moment, I could have ran off and married him, but thankfully I had some self control.

When a guy does something so strange on your level of weirdness it is so attractive! It’s in these moments that we discover a new best friend. Let’s be real, you don’t want to spend the rest of your life with someone who you can only be yourself around after a couple glasses of wine. You want to be with someone who will be a goofball with you 24 hours of every day, completely sober! It’s the couples we witness that have zero cares when they’re with each other, and they are perfectly weird together!

I consider myself to be a complete weirdo, and I find humor in knowing that God created a guy out there who is perfectly weird for me! Poor smuck… but I can’t wait to meet him!

Xoxo
-Ruby
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