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Life Lessons, Marriage Advice, Relationship Adivce, Submissions 5

You’re Not A Lost Cause

By Contributor · On August 2, 2013

Blog Contributor: Hope

Hello love seekers, I have a story to tell you.

A year and a half ago, I started dating a boy who I thought was way out of my league. As far as I was concerned, he hung the moon and stars. He was amazing. Charming, good looking, fantastic wit and sense of humor, as far as I knew, he loved The Lord. We were so compatible. We hardly ever had fights, and when we did, it was nothing a hug and a kiss couldn’t repair. This seemingly perfect relationship lasted a few months, and then I started to encounter what I can now identify as problems. If only I had seen them as problems back then.

Being from a small southern town, our favorite date night activity was to after dinner drive out to the country, park off on a dirt road, and stargaze. It was so romantic. The first few times were so great. Just me and him, laying in the bed of his truck, watching the stars and talking about life without a care in the world. After a while, he began to ask me for sex. I had explained to him that as a Christian I wanted to honor God’s word by keeping my purity for whoever it is I would marry. He didn’t respect that, and would often argue that it was not a necessary thing to do. For a while I urged him that it was, but after some time, I began to believe him, and I gave in. He had me so convinced that we were going to get married, have a sweet little family, and live the American dream, that I threw every ounce of common sense I had by the wayside and let my guard down.

I’m not blaming him for this decision, I every bit had a choice. I knew it was wrong, but I chose to succumb regardless. This went on for over a year, and I am proud to say that I have finally listened to God and have come out of the most unhealthy relationship I have ever been in. It has been difficult no doubt, and it would be a lie to tell you I don’t still struggle sometimes. Even with all that being said, I think the worst part about it was that I knew all along that what I was doing was not pleasing to The Lord and I chose to do it anyway. My selfish, self centeredness caused me to distance myself from everyone I was close to. My family, my friends, my church, and worst of all God. I became so wrapped up in this relationship that he literally took God’s place in my life. I practically worshipped him. He became my number one.

My decision to give myself to this man sexually is one I regret bitterly, but through it, I can’t tell you how much I’ve learned. It taught me the difference between love and lust. When you are in the middle of young relationships, the two can be very easy to confuse. Lust is selfish. Love is selfless. So often you hear encouraging stories of girls sharing the fulfillment they found in saving themselves for their husbands. That is so wonderful and I am so incredibly proud of each and every one of those women. On another hand though, rarely do you hear stories of girls who have given into sexual temptation and find their way out.

For those of you whom this applies to, I want you to know that you are not a lost cause. Just because you have given in does not mean that this is your “standard”. You are not dirty. You are loved, and you are worth love. You are worth everything in the world, and Jesus Christ gave everything just to know you. He calls you by name, and you are His. You are beautiful, you are priceless, you are a treasure. Any voice that would dare to tell you differently is a lie from the enemy and you do not have to listen to that anymore. Know your worth child of God, and walk in it.

I write this not only to tell you my story, but to share with you my mistakes. My heartbreak, my sorrow, the true, gut wrenching sadness that comes when you know you’ve disappointed your creator. Deep down, I know we’re all the same. We share the same strong desire to love, to feel loved and to truly be loved. There’s nothing wrong with that at all, we are women. It’s part of who God made us to feel that way. But ladies, I want to encourage you to wait. Wait for the man God has for you, who is qualified to be the spiritual leader of your household, will cover you in prayer without you having to ask for it, and won’t ridicule your desire to follow how Jesus says to live. Who while enamored by your beauty, but puts God FIRST and you second. Don’t settle for someone second tier. God has him for you. Trust Him to give him to you when the time is right. He loved you first, and He loves you best. You can trust Him, there’s no doubt about it.

Blessings,
Hope

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5 Comments

  • Lexi says: October 31, 2013 at 12:30 am

    This is maybe the best advice I have read in a long time. Thank you.

    Reply
  • Tay says: November 20, 2013 at 10:30 pm

    This applies to my life in so many ways. I really needed to read this.
    Thank you very much!

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  • Kady says: December 9, 2013 at 12:49 am

    Thank you SO much for this amazing article. I’ve never read something that I could relate to so well like I did with this article. A beautiful message full of wisdom, love, and faith. You’re such a blessing for writing this!

    Reply
  • JC says: January 5, 2014 at 7:54 pm

    This post moved me to tears as I am struggling with the same situation you went through and am having a difficult time finding the strength, courage, and ability to even begin to forgive myself for straying off the path I had intended to stay on.

    Reply
  • momof1 says: January 7, 2014 at 12:11 pm

    This is so true and such an encouragement to those who need to hear it. I was in my mid twenties when I dated a guy I knew I shouldn’t date, and it ended in him getting what he wanted and never calling me again…and he was so good at acting like the guy I wanted him to be. I was so stupid to not see it coming, and way too old to be that stupid! I think I consciously strayed from God and what I knew to be right just because I was getting impatient waiting for Mr. Right…and then a few months after this heart break…I met him. He was everything God had promised me, everything I had prayed for and dreamed of my whole life…and he dumped me when I told him about my past sins. Thankfully, I prayed and cried like I have never prayed and cried before, and he took me back. We waited till our wedding night, and it was so beautiful and special and it was all because of grace, forgiveness, and the love of my God and my husband. We have been married for 6 and half years and I love him even more now. God has blessed me so much, in spite of my impatience, my lack of faith, my disobedience…the list goes on and on.

    Thank you for sharing. I have read only a few of your posts, but I will be returning to read more. It sounds like you have not yet found “the one” and if that is the case, my advice to you is…be patient and never stop praying. I am proof that God is faithful even in my unfaithfulness. He is out there, and God is preparing your heart for him and his heart for you, even when it feels like it’s never going to happen. And you are definitely NOT a lost cause!

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