1. If you’re in a relationship and you cheat or have the urge to cheat, 9 out of 10 times, you’re dating the wrong guy. Why? Well, because something is missing. I am not going to lie… I made a terrible girlfriend until I met my husband. Every time I dated a guy I found myself scanning the room for the next best catch. Turns out, all those failed relationships were because I hadn’t met my husband yet, well duh. But, unfortunately girls fail to realize this. They stay in relationships for 1-3 years thinking “this is as good as it gets” or they have the fear that if they leave this long term boyfriend they’ll never find anyone else. Stop lying to yourself – God will bring you your future husband, be patient.
2. If he doesn’t meet the qualifications of the following scripture, he doesn’t love you. End of story. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Amen.
3. A wedding is one day, your life together is forever. Getting caught up in the details can distract from what is really important… and that’s your life together. A wedding can take over your life for a year, and then… you could possibly find yourself walking down the aisle to a guy you barely even know anymore, because all you’ve been talking about for the past year is wedding junk. Seriously, talk to your future hubby about things that matter… not the color of the table cloths.
4. God should come first in everything you do. Don’t let boys, work, partying, friends, and etc distract you from that. Growing up I allowed myself to become so distracted from what was really important. Sometimes it takes a lot of stupid nights…. and A LOT of hangovers… to realize that God has such a bigger plan for you. People can really fool you into thinking that the party lifestyle is fun and “beneficial” because “YOLO”– it’s not. The fun is temporary… and the next day you’ll be shaking your head… and trust me, you’ll never stop shaking your head at past decisions. I’m still disappointed in myself. You think you can forget, but you can’t… All you can do is learn and realize that God is good, forgiving, and filled with grace.
5. God is the glue that holds your relationship together. People change. It’s the truth. We do. But with God in the center of your relationship, you’ll continually grow together. With God you become kinder and more loving. And when troubles come along, you know to lean on God. And when you think things will never get better, you know God will provide. Without God, marriage is bound to fail. Without God, a lot of couples think they can leave the moment things get tough… but with God in your relationship you know to stick it out. Trials bring you closer together. If couples realized that tough times make for better times, maybe divorce wouldn’t happen so often… I’ve learned that every single time my husband and I stick it out – we become closer and more in love… because it’s proof that our love is unconditional, and there is no better feeling than that.