The relationship Band-Aid. You know, the one you use to hide every problem within your relationship? It’s time to pull it off, and here’s why:
In the past I found myself in so many relationships where I was just making excuses. I would say things like:
“Oh, I’m not looking for anything serious right now.”
“He’s just passing the time.”
“I’m just going through a phase.”
“Maybe he’ll change.”
“Maybe I’ll change”
“Maybe we’ll grow on each other and fall in love.”
“The fighting keeps the relationship interesting.”
“No relationship is perfect….”
“I’m not ready for marriage anyways.”
Oh, and if those aren’t enough Band-Aids. We’ve got the:
“I don’t want to break his heart.”
“His family will hate me.”
“But he really didn’t do anything wrong.”
“We share all the same friends.”
“We have to work together.”
“Whom will I hang out with?”
“But the dog…”
“I love his dog.”
And my favorite Dane Cook example: “It’s not that simple! My cds are in his truck.”
Listen, I don’t want to discredit your worries, but in the scope of things. How serious are these concerns?
You’ve got your whole life ahead of you, and to be honest, don’t you think it’s more important to be spending your time with somebody that you can actually see a future with?
I’m not trying to rush you into marriage; I’m just trying to push you away from wasting your time. Time isn’t something you can get back. It’s fleeting. So, why spend it with somebody that makes you unhappy, insecure, angry, emotionally empty, or depressed?
You have to pull the Band-Aid off. Let yourself heal. And move on.
Breakups aren’t easy. Every problem is a real problem. From separating your lives to even missing his dog. Long relationships = blankies. And If you’ve ever owned a blankie growing up, you understand just how difficult it is to say goodbye. When at the end of the day, we all know that blankie never really provided anything substantial for you except something to cuddle with.
And moving on can be even harder. Because when it gets late at night or when you get lonely, all you want is that blankie. But, just like getting rid of a real blankie is a part of growing up, so is breaking up with someone you shouldn’t be with anymore. The fear of being alone is scary now, but do you know what’s even scarier? Going through a divorce at an older age because you married the wrong person.
You’ve got your whole life ahead of you. Don’t settle already.
Grab a friend, get a bottle of wine, rip the Band-Aid off, and move on.